Neuroticism Treatment

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You can spot them from a mile away, like a nuclear bomb radiating angsty energy. That coworker, neighbour, or friend, who obsessively analyses every little feeling, thought, and action and then reanalyses their analysis. You know them, and you love-hate them. We are talking about the Woody Allens of the world, better known as neurotics in clinical terms.

With a natural propensity towards negativity, self-doubt, and anxiety, life for someone with a neurotic personality disorder can be extremely challenging. As they constantly rehearse the worst-case scenarios, the condition often leads to high levels of worry, guilt, and neurotic depression. Fortunately, as impossible as it may sound, getting over this psychiatric issue is possible.

Keep reading to learn more about this personality disorder and neuroticism treatment in detail.

Because everyone deals with challenges differently, the examples of neurotic behaviour may not look the same for everyone. For instance, a person with a neurotic personality may struggle with withdrawal and anxiety from others. On the contrary, another person with a similar disorder may cling to toxic relationships out of the fear of being alone.

Some common examples of high neuroticism include:

Experiencing an outsised reaction to a relatively minor problem; such as crying because your lunch was burnt or road rage
Being overly critical of yourself or your work, similar to perfectionism that hinders progress
Difficulty taking care of your basic needs, such as hygiene, shopping, paying bills, or continuing a job, due to anxiety or depression
Intense panic or anxiety even in non-threatening social situations, such as a friendly gathering or a work function
Facing troubles maintaining relationships due to jealousy, overly controlling behaviour, anger, or excessively needy behaviour

If you are worried about having neurosis, scrutinise yourself and your everyday life for the presence of the following symptoms:

Depression
Poor response to stressors
Anger and irritability
Excessive guilt and worry
Apprehension and anxiety
A tendency towards developing negative reactions and emotions
Emotional instability
Interpreting everyday situations as threatening
Low self-consciousness and self-esteem

If you are concerned about a family member having this issue, watch out for the following neurotic symptoms:

Making their stress or dissatisfaction well-known to you
Requiring constant reassurance, even on the smallest matters and things that you have already validated
Being codependent or overly dependent in relationships
Exhibiting perfectionist tendencies
Getting into frequent conflicts with others due to a lack of emotional resilience
Flying off the handle the minute you initiate a serious conversation

The presence of the symptoms mentioned above does not necessary means that you or a loved one have a neurotic personality disorder. But if you can spot a pattern of behaviour over time that’s causing extreme distress, it is important to seek help from a professional as soon as possible.

It is normal to encounter stress that overwhelms your current capacity to cope, but when it becomes too much or gets out of control, help is warranted. Excessive stress can lead to multiple negative impacts that spill over into different areas of life. Eventually, your physical or mental health takes a toll, and your ability to function at home, work, or any other area of life may significantly decrease. In such a crisis, contacting a licensed mental health professional might be helpful.

Some other indications of seeking professional help to commence neuroticism treatment include:

An inability to develop positive emotions
Difficulty eating, sleeping or completing basic everyday tasks due to the sheer volume of negative emotions
Having thoughts of suicide and death or urges of self-harm
Intense negative emotions that impair judgments
Over-reliance on alcohol or drugs to cope with a difficult time
Facing frequent conflicts in important relationships
Experiencing persistent negative emotions lasting for weeks

If your neurosis seems to stem from an underlying mental issue, a healthcare team can discuss the best treatment for that diagnosis. Other treatment modalities commonly used for managing neurosis include:

Medications

A psychiatrist can prescribe appropriate medications to reduce the symptoms of neurosis and associated mental illnesses like depression and anxiety. These medications work by changing the brain chemistry generating neurotic behaviour. Some common medicines used for this purpose include:

Anti-anxiety medication targets and prevents anxiety symptoms such as restlessness and nervousness. One common example of such medications is benzodiazepines.
Antidepressants, such as selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors, target and manage the symptoms of depression and their effects on life.

Psychotherapy

Different types of talk therapy can help manage the negative thought patterns associated with neurosis and help individuals change their unhealthy ways of coping. Such treatments are also beneficial for helping the patients recognise their neurotic behaviours and understand how these behaviours are contributing to their current problems.

Some commonly used forms of psychotherapy to address neurotic personality disorder symptoms include:

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)- focuses on changing unhelpful thought patterns feeding into difficult emotions and replacing them with healthier ones.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)- in which a therapist helps clients accept their difficult emotions and learn how to express them without getting stuck with them. ACT also helps them learn how to prevent emotion-driven responses and gradually replace them with value-driven responses.
Exposure Therapy– particularly helps people with neurosis-related anxiety and those who use avoidance techniques to avoid facing difficult emotions.
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT)- coaches individuals to find moderate ways of thinking and responding to difficult feelings and thoughts through interpersonal effectiveness, mindfulness, emotional regulation, and distress tolerance.

The key to managing neuroticism is to develop effective emotional coping methods by interrupting the internal processes feeding these difficult emotions. To achieve this, the following five strategies may work.

Challenge your thinking

Challenge yourself to think differently about yourself, your circumstances and your life. Negative appraisals, a common trait of neurosis, tend to focus more on things that generate feelings of anger, anxiety, and sadness. On the other hand, positive appraisals counteract these negative emotions. You can indulge in positive appraisal by:

Practising gratitude every day as you identify little things to be thankful for. This trains your mind to notice the positives instead of the negatives
Use the word “at least” while analysing difficult situations in an attempt to identify any positives of the case that you may have missed

Pay attention to the present moment

Mindfulness can be extremely beneficial for unhooking you from unhelpful behaviours and thoughts and diverting your attention to some aspect in the present moment. Practising it can reduce stress and counteract neuroticism in the best way possible. To apply mindfulness in your daily life:

Focus your attention on your breathing and track it as you inhale and exhale
Focus on your surrounding using one or more of your five senses to become more aware of the present moment

Do the opposite of what you feel

Sometimes, doing the exact opposite of what you feel triggers a positive emotional shift. It helps you understand that you are always in control of your emotions, no matter how strong or intense they are. To practice this, follow the tips below:

When your depression does not let you get out of bed, push yourself to get up and follow through with your plans
Be honest and open with a loved one when you feel the urge to become defensive
Show kindness to someone you are upset with by offering them help

Focus on the problem instead of the emotion

Use a problem-solving approach to get through a difficult situation instead of focusing on its emotion. Some ways to practice problem-solving include the following:

When you are overwhelmed, upset, or stressed out, pull back and identify where your stress is stemming from
Once you identify the source, come up with responses that can help address the root problem
If you cannot address the issue, identify a response that does not make it worse

Connect with others

Individuals with neurotic tendencies face issues forming and maintaining relationships with others. Focus on building new relationships and strengthening the existing ones, as this is the key to a happy and emotionally-balanced life. Some tips for practising this include the following:

Do not assume things about people’s intentions, thoughts, or feelings. Ask them openly about whatever is on your mind
Practice active listening and be attentive to the needs, wants, and feelings of people you love

FAQs

Is being neurotic helpful in any way?

Generally, a little neuroticism can be good for a person and their soul. People with this personality type are generally more humourous and intelligent and have more realistic expectations and self-awareness. Research reveals that such people are more likely to be creative thinkers with more emotional depth. Neurotic individuals generally have more experience in managing negative emotions, which facilitates feelings of empathy for others’ struggles. Experts also believe that neurotic people think ahead of time and are always informed of their environment and its dangers. As a result, these individuals are always prepared for all possible negative outcomes.

What happens if I do not seek help for neurosis?

If left untreated, neurosis may grow into much bigger health concerns, not only for you but for your relationships too. This is because being neurotic negatively affects mental health and the ability to function every day. In the long run, it may lead to physical complications like eczema, immune system dysfunction, asthma, exhaustion, heart problems, and irritable bowel syndrome. Apart from the physical consequences, a person with neurosis may have actual and perceived marital issues and a decreased work performance to the extent of occupational failure. Longstanding neurosis also makes people more vulnerable to certain psychiatric problems, such as mood and eating disorders.

Is neuroticism bad?

While neuroticism may make a person more vulnerable to negative emotions, having this personality does not mean they are destined to have a bad or unhappy life. Experiencing negative emotions is a part of human nature, and without this trait, people are at a higher risk of developing neurotic depression, anxiety, or anger issues. People who suffer from severe neurosis that continues to affect their lives can seek help to learn how to respond effectively to their emotions. With better internal and external emotional regulation, they can learn to control their behaviours and live healthy life.

How does neuroticism affect relationships?

Neurotic behaviours can make it challenging for people to establish close, healthy, and trusting relationships with others. Such people have a negative bias that sometimes extends to how they perceive their partner and the entire relationship. As a result, they may perceive problems that do not exist or exaggerate the existing issues in a way that provokes conflicts. Such patterns can cause trouble in all relationships; however, romantic relationships take a more severe hit than others. Lastly, neuroticism may make people less satisfied in their marriage than others.

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